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Marriage and Parenting with Heart, Mind, and Soul inspired by The Urantia Book
scanned in, reformatted handout presented by Tom Vasile July 25, 2023
68:2.8 (765.5) Almost everything of lasting value in civilization has its roots in the family. The family was the first successful peace group, the man and woman learning how to adjust their antagonisms while at the same time teaching the pursuits of peace to their children.
Allow love, peace, and kindness to dominate the home life.
84:7.25 (941.6) The olden ideas of family discipline were biologic, . .. The advancing ideals of family life are leading to the concept that bringing a child into the world, instead of conferring certain parental rights, entails the supreme responsibility of human existence.
When disciplining our children, do it with love. Avoid angry discipline. Spanking a child is an example that hitting someone when they misbehave is okay? You can use natural and logical consequences- withdraw cell phone, computer access, etc. Time outs for child or for adult?
Eventually, as time goes by, our children will be more like friends than children, especially in our next life. So treat them with love, as you would a friend.
177:2.5 (1922.3) Jesus. . .a child is wholly dependent on his parents and the associated home life for all his early concepts of everything intellectual, social, moral, and even spiritual since the family represents to the young child all that he can first know of either human or divine relationships. The child must derive his first impressions of the universe from the mother’s care; he is wholly dependent on the earthly father for his first ideas of the heavenly Father. The child’s subsequent life is made happy or unhappy, easy or difficult, in accordance with his early mental and emotional life, conditioned by these social and spiritual relationships of the home. A human being’s entire afterlife is enormously influenced by what happens during the first few years of existence.
92:7.11(1013.6) ... And the entire religious experience of such a child is largely dependent on whether fear or love has dominated the parent-child relationship.
56:10.20 (648.3) .. love is the greatest thing in the universe. . .God is love. Love is the desire to do good to others. Make the world a better place by the life we live and love we give to our spouse and children. Bearing these fruits can help a marriage stay together and be really good for spouse and children’s spiritual development.
To me, Marriage and Parenting with Heart means doing our best to take care of our physical heart and body. It starts with our relationship with ourselves. If we take good care of our body, mind, and soul, we have greater potential to have a positive impact in our relationships with our spouse and children. In our inner life we can seek God's guidance in how we can best care for our physical, mental, and spiritual powers, so we can be at our best as spouse and parent.
To enable us to receive the maximum of light and truth in our role as a spouse or parent, it is important for us to take care of ourselves by cultivating our soul growth through balanced nourishment of our physical, mental and spiritual components. Daily aerobic exercise helps reduce stress and release anger, enabling us to be more calm and loving to our family.
Pray--pray for guidance in relating to our spouse and children. Pray in the moment--seek God's guidance in how we can best care for our physical, mental, and spiritual powers, so we can be at our best as a spouse and parent.
Marriage and Parenting with mind and soul is about seeking inspiration and guidance from God in our inner life through prayer, worship, and meditation in order to be good, loving marital partners and work as teammates with our unseen friends in raising & educating our children.
140:8.14 (1581.1) The family occupied the very center of Jesus’ philosophy of life—here and hereafter. He based his teachings about God on the family. . .He exalted family life as the highest human duty...
142:7.5(1603.6) Jesus stated that a true family is founded on the following seven facts:
142:7.11 (1604.6) 6. Love and mercy. A compassionate father freely forgiving: fathers do not hold vengeful memories against their children. Fathers are not like judges, enemies, or creditors. Real families are built upon tolerance, patience, and forgiveness.
142:7.10 (1604.5) Companionship and loyalty. The affectionate father holds intimate and loving intercourse with his children. Always is his ear open to their petitions; he is ever ready to share their hardships and assist them over their difficulties. The father is supremely interested in the progressive welfare of his progeny.”
It’s important to actively listen to our spouse and children. We can do this using psychologist Carl Roger’s core conditions of helping relationship; empathy, unconditional love, & sincerity.
83:6.1 (927.2) ... monogamy is decidedly best for the children.
83:6.6 (927.7) Monogamy always has been, now is, and forever will be the idealistic goal of human sex evolution. This ideal of true pair marriage entails self-denial, and therefore does it so often fail just because one or both of the contracting parties are deficient in that acme of all human virtues, rugged self-control.
When a spouse is unfaithful & sincerely repents, forgiving tolerance could help marriage.
83:6.8 (928.1) Pair marriage favors and fosters that intimate understanding and effective co-operation which is best for parental happiness, child welfare, and social efficiency. Marriage, which began in crude coercion, is gradually evolving into a magnificent institution of self-culture, self-control, self-expression, self-perpetuation.”
84:6.3 (938.7) Male and female are. . . two distinct varieties of the same species. . .Their viewpoints and entire life reactions are essentially different; they are wholly incapable of full and real comprehension of each other. Complete understanding between the sexes is not attainable.
Avoiding unnecessary conflict--Before speaking ask yourself:
- Does this need to be said?
- Does this need to be said by me?
- Does this need to be said now?
Remember what peace there may be in silence. If you need to respond pray for guidance--How can | say it so it results in good? Pray in the moment for guidance—respond in a loving way.
84:6.5 (938.9) The differences of nature, reaction, viewpoint, and thinking between men and women, should be regarded as highly beneficial to mankind, both individually and collectively.
84:6.6 (939.1) Men and women need each other in their morontial and spiritual as well as in their mortal careers. . . in the overcoming of manifold cosmic difficulties.
